Is there True Friendship Between Genders? ? Chengdu Forum

This is an age old question. Can people of the opposite sex truly be friends without ever feeling something for each other at some point?

In my experience, the answer to that question is yes, I have (girl)friends that I haven't even thought about dating, even though I find some of them attractive. Where it gets complicated is that, even if I feel that way, there's no guarantee that she feels the same. She could be completely in love with me, which, well, would complicate our relationship a lot. Of course, the opposite can happen as well. I might have a huge crush on a girl, but she might just see me as a friend. (The friend zone!)

In my personal experience, if the girls are slightly older or younger than me, what will usually form is some type of pseudo ''brother sister'' type of relationship.

To me, based on what your writing, it sounds like your way past that point. You no longer see each other as ''just friends'', you already seem to care for each other at a romantic level. This is
of course natural.

And yes, many romantic relationships do begin with friendship, in fact, many people think that the best relationships begin that way, since you already are comfortable with each other.

Only you can decide what to do, you could essentially just friend zone him and say you want to simply stay as friends and force it over your own feelings and his, which might be painful but worth it in the end. Or you could just cut him off completely, which of course will be painful as well. Or maybe just go for it? Dunno!

Just my 2 cents.

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